Sexual Assault Survivor Info and Resources | KCSDV

If you are here because you are wondering whether what happened to you was sexual assault, sexual abuse, or sexual violence, you are not alone. Many people struggle to make sense of their experiences, especially when the person who caused harm tries to minimize or deny it. It is common for perpetrators to pressure survivors into believing the abuse “wasn’t really” sexual violence, to convince them they were “ok” with what happened afterward, or to absolve themselves of responsibility.

It is important to know: what happened is not your fault, and help is available.

KCSDV and our member programs are here to listen, believe, and support you in finding the resources and safety you deserve.

Sexual violence is experienced by all ages, genders, and demographics. It is important to understand that perpetrators will use myths about sexual violence and
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center shares that 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 6 men in the U.S. experience sexual violence in their lifetime.

According to the CDC, over half of women and nearly one in three men in the U.S. have experienced sexual violence involving physical contact. Around one in four women and about one in 26 men have experienced completed or attempted rape.CDC

These numbers reflect real people—people just like you—whose experiences matter. Whether you’re looking for someone to talk to, guidance on next steps, or just reassurance, you’re not alone and your experience is valid.

Sexual activity without clear, voluntary, and ongoing consent is sexual assault. Consent means you freely agree to participate in sexual activity. You always have the right to set boundaries, change your mind, or stop any activity at any time, for any reason.

There is no consent when:

You feel pressured, threatened, or forced.
Someone uses their power, authority, or trust to manipulate you.
You are unable to give consent due to drugs, alcohol, sleep, or unconsciousness.
Someone lies or deceives you to obtain sex.
You initially consent, but then change your mind and are not respected.
You are underage or otherwise legally unable to consent.

No one ever has the right to violate your boundaries. Even if you were open to some form of intimacy, you decide how far things go. Your choices matter, and they must be respected.

You may feel overwhelmed, confused, scared, or unsure of what to do next. These feelings are normal. There are people ready to support you, listen without judgment, and help you navigate your options.

You are not alone. You have options:

Advocacy Support: Confidential advocates are available 24/7 to provide emotional support, safety planning, and information.

Medical Care: You have the right to seek a medical forensic exam or SANE (sometimes called a rape kit) to address health needs and collect evidence. You can choose which parts of the exam you want to complete.

Law Enforcement: Reporting to police is your decision. Advocates can help you understand the process and support you if you choose to report.

Legal System: Prosecutors review cases to determine whether charges can be filed. Victim advocates and legal professionals can guide you through the court process if you choose to participate.

How do I help if I think someone I care about is experiencing sexual violence? – Link to bystander training guide: www.righttobe.org/guides/bystander-intervention-training

If you are wondering if you experienced sexual violence there are two things to understand:

Being in a committed relationship or marriage does not mean that someone can violate your consent
Sexual violence is any activity that you didn’t want and said no to – it does not have to be penetrative sex

Sometimes a person will try to claim that since things did not go “all the way” or they “only just touched you” that it was not sexual assault. This is not true and not okay.

It is also important to understand that you have the right to decide what happens next if you talk to someone about experiencing sexual violence.

No one can make you talk to a counselor, advocate, law enforcement, or prosecutor – and no one can force you to seek medical care. You decide when and how you want to discuss your experience. These resources are available to you anytime you want them and they come with different help and considerations. The choices are yours and you decide what is best for your well-being.

Sexual Assault Survivor Information

Understanding Sexual Assault, Sexual Abuse, and Sexual Violence

These numbers reflect real people—people just like you—whose experiences matter. Whether you’re looking for someone to talk to, guidance on next steps, or just reassurance, you’re not alone and your experience is valid.

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